Thursday, December 29, 2022
appraisal (32)
last month of the year
what i've been doing:
- binge-reading the in death series
- because i finished the forensic instincts series
- with the namesake thrown in for intellectual heft
- and cross-stitching J2 and Ji's gift
- but the prognosis for completing it in time is grim
- taking lots of walks with HOM
- we crossed thirty-two years this month
- that's more than half one's life
thoughts from the pandemic
three years on one has thoughts. the macro thoughts being:
- some people are self-serving. so are some nations
- and some people are just less capable. sometimes they have influence. more's the pity
- knowledge can change quickly. woe betide you if you miss the inflection point
- governance discipline and trust count. some societies just don't get it
- the mask is a wonderful invention
- is it alright if i still don't shake your hands? i don't want to fist bump either
Sunday, December 25, 2022
seasonal sentiments
Sunday, December 4, 2022
simeon and anna recognize the Lord in Jesus (rembrandt, c. 1629)
- it is possible to grow old and infirm without becoming spiteful silly and petty
- it is possible in fact to grow old graciously gracefully and with confidence
winding down
Saturday, December 3, 2022
the namesake - jhumpa lahiri (2003)
Thursday, December 1, 2022
1 December
having waited an entire year for the end of the year
suddenly it's cooler
and thanksgiving has come and gone
and the streets are lighted up
arrgggghhhhhh
i'm not ready for the new year
supper
to J1 and J2
how you have both grown! into adulthood and responsibilities and strategizing! and homes and pets and possessions! and into dreams and hopes and plans!
i thank God for the partners you have chosen. Y is outwardly gentle with a core of strength that matches your soft-heartedness, J1, with sharpness of thought that will make her your able partner. Ji has an eager and curious mind that is like yours, J2, and yet so unlike yours that he will be your strength and your foil.
i thank God for the paths you have chosen. they are so different from our paths and yet not so different. thirty-odd years ago we trod divergent paths from friends and family and went courageously and recklessly into uncertainties and adventures. as you are doing today. may the tapestries you weave be richly intricate and festooned with all manner of gems.
i thank God for your faith. may you each be strengthened and built up and filled with His fulness. may you have hearts that reach out and hands that gladly share. may you be blessings, and may you be deeply blessed.
Wednesday, November 30, 2022
in thanksgiving and in joy
big apple
city lights - busy sidewalks - bagel mornings - drip coffee - quick pace - smelly subway - macy's - bryant park - sketchy bits o' town. all parts of one of my favorite cities to visit.
with an improvement. applepay works on the subway. yessss.
Wednesday, November 23, 2022
Sunday, November 20, 2022
a letter to my daughter and my new son
our hearts are glad! glad that you have come to this time. very glad that you have begun to share hopes and plans with each other. and gladdest that you seek to build those plans upon eternal foundations.
remember that God has brought you together. if you allow, God will keep you together. in God there is no wasted opportunity or lost time and your small steps become part of a beautiful whole. our prayer as you walk your path together is that the path be broad beneath your feet and that your feet be sure. it is easy to lose sight of the path when there are many thrills at the side!
there is a garden full of seeds that you must tend. the blooms are messy but gorgeous and striking but delicate and the beds are planned but contrary. you must tend them in the growing seasons when the sun is gentle and the rains fall kindly and you must protect them when the sun scorches and the showers become thundery. remember to tend to them in the dry seasons when you mostly have the memory of the blooms!
remember how you met and were met. remember the kindness of regard the consideration for others the gentleness of expectation that each of you has. build upon it patience and faithfulness and self-control. may yours be a garden where love and joy and peace bloom.
may your garden be glorious and magnificent!
Friday, November 18, 2022
steppin' down
Sunday, November 13, 2022
autumn visit
i love:
- the nip in the air
- the sharply oblique play of sunlight
- the deep breath that you can inhale, and
- the warm coffee as you walk
Sunday, October 16, 2022
hotel stay
Sunday, August 28, 2022
kek lok si
air itam
Saturday, August 27, 2022
pearl of the orient
- penang hill, in the distance, looks the same. benignantly maternal and immanent
- the old zinc roofs and shophouses continue uncensored and firmly in the last two centuries
- although the mid-century-style chinese schools now sport LED welcome billboards
- georgetown gentrification looks shabby chic by now. they need a new wave soon
- our palate is no longer as intrepid as it was. or perhaps our eyes miss less
- the people are friendly and unassuming and speak the dialect of my childhood
- the place is messy the traffic is 'orrible but it all works anyway
- there are surprisingly few smokers out loose
- the food is good and the exchange rate is favorable
- the peranakan museum was gorgeous. with english-speaking guides! yesss
Friday, June 10, 2022
look who showed up
so today at the gym as i do my shoulder presses i am pleasantly surprised to see the outlines of my biceps peeking through the outline of my upper arm. not that i'm aiming to look like mr. universe mind you, but that gently luscious shape peeping out shyly was most welcome after three months of determined self-immolation.
Monday, May 16, 2022
blessed and grateful
balli kaur jaswal
erotic stories for punjabi widows (2017)
inheritance (2013)
i discover a new author. she writes smoothly and addresses diversely gritty topics with grace. she is entirely grammatical while conveying a nice sense of multi-ethnic multi-racial authenticity. i gain some insight into a culture i have not hitherto known much of. i am delighted.
Monday, May 9, 2022
used books warehouse
Sunday, May 8, 2022
jacob's ladder
you sure you want to climb it? HOM asks me doubtfully. i'm guessing he harbors memories of pulling me up half of xiangshan in taipei. yes, i say. i do.
it's the new me that's a little less avoidant of challenges. hey, if a girl can cobble together a mini resistance workout to improve her blood sugars, she can jolly well climb up that interminable lot of steps.
anyway, i do it. to my own surprise too.
Saturday, May 7, 2022
more thoughts about travel
specifically about the accommodation:
- the electricals need to work. effortlessly
- the hot water should be instant. or as near as
- the shower has to be powerful. doesn't need to be rain
- the charging points should be abundant. especially bedside
- the place should be clean. at least appear to be!
- and bright. nice yellow bright is good
- the plates and cutlery match, and
- the stemware is elegant
Friday, May 6, 2022
prevelly
happy mistake and thoughts about travel
morning shot
Tuesday, May 3, 2022
roll call
wordle
malay wordle
wordhurdle
quordle
waffle
anti-wordle
nice little quotidian dopamine hits. or not, depending on the day.
Sunday, April 17, 2022
Easter
incarnation
death
resurrection
incomprehensibly glorious plan that purchases my hope of joy. thank God for his indescribable gift.
Friday, April 15, 2022
tech update
iphone facial recognition with mask on must be the best tech thing since the pandemic started. yesssss.
other best things since the pandemic started include face masks, mandatory physical distancing, and virtuous reasons for decreased social interaction.
good friday morning musings
- thank God i get to tap so freely on a God who came and died for me
- and that i live in a time that makes it easy to tap so freely on him
Sunday, March 27, 2022
liturgy of the ordinary - tish harrison warren (2016)
Saturday, March 19, 2022
things i remember about my father (13.11.1937-24.2.2022)
he was faithful in the quiet everyday things like being there when he said he would be and telling the truth even if it was difficult and diligently preparing for his classes and work and presentations. he was faithful in seeking excellence.
he loved languages - mandarin chinese and hokkien and english and malay and japanese and was it bangladeshi that he learnt from the security guards at his condo? he loved the spoken word with its unending melodies and he loved the written word in its rich intricacies.
he was a kind and generous man who shared freely considerably consistently and quietly out of his supplies. he declined promotions in order to keep his friendships. he was contented with his lot and he rejoiced in it.
he loved his wife my mother with gentle understanding and unwavering regard. my parents' love gives me hope that it is possible to grow old and infirm and helpless and yet love. it is possible that affection is redeemed into charity without losing itself.
i have a father a girl can be so proud of. i am glad we will meet again.
to the lady on the bus
dear middle-aged lady on the bus who was sitting on one of a pair of seats when HOM and i boarded and saw that all the other seat pairs were occupied by at least one passenger each and who stood up to move to another single seat whilst gesturing to us to take her vacated pair of seats, THANK YOU! it was an unsolicited unexpected and very heart-warming little act of sheer kindness that gives me an idea of how i can do the same for others next time.
Sunday, February 13, 2022
a history of the present illness - louise aronson (2013)
Wednesday, February 2, 2022
maybe you should talk to someone - lori gottlieb (2019)
- between stimulus and response there is a space. in that space is our power to choose our response... as she quotes Frankl
- being liked, and loved, for my neshama, which is my spirit or my soul
- what not to do say to a dying person: be strong, you can beat this! have you asked for a second opinion? what to say: i'm so sorry
- there is no hierarchy to pain. suffering is not a competition
Wednesday, January 26, 2022
3 books to begin the year with (sort of)
new syndrome
vGBS, vocabular Guillain-Barré Syndrome
a syndrome characterized by progressive cognitive paralysis with each incorrect guess on wordle, culminating in complete shut-down and a choking sensation at line 6.
in contrast to GBS, which is a rare condition, vGBS is relatively common.
2022
crept up and sneaked in, that's what the year has done. the year-to-date tally:
- circulars and circulars. delta omicron and now BA.2. isolation deisolation non-isolation. protocols 1-2-2PC-3. PPM MMP SSM SSS. i hope one day i will look back and it will still make a modicum of sense
- cybersecurity and internet separation. very good for governance and rather non-intuitive and punitive to the rest of us who now have to read our excel tables on a cellphone. halp
- wordle! the box of yellow-and-green squares that binds work-mates family old friends and more. may the day come when i hit the green bar on my first line!
- and gently easing back to going to church on sundays. to clarify, i mean the actual building, as opposed to the couch. which means getting dressed and leaving the home and venturing to travel to-and-fro. no longer the brainless task it was