a letter to my son and my new daughter

as you plan your life together.

remember, amidst the busyness and the many details, why you are together. the kindness of regard and gentleness of spirit the fun of kindredness the wryness of humor and the freshness of perspective. remember the sunlight and candlelight by which love has come, especially when hurry and urgency and impatience would have their way.

remember God has brought you together. there is no waste no loss no missed timing in his ways. he has made you your past and your present. if you allow, God will guide your next passage. remember how easy it is to unhear God's voice when the world's voice clamors so.

remember to tend your garden together. beyond the excitement and glamor and romance and plans lie much quiet mundaneness plodding drudgery routine days and unacknowledged resentment. your love must thrive in one as in the other. it will, if you faithfully tend it. 

realize that two are better than one. two can dream bigger dreams than one. two can accomplish more than one. two can spur each other to be better. two can support each other in weakness. may you be a strong team of two, by God's extravagant grace.